Have you ever noticed that when your kid starts to escalate, you start to get dysregulated? Do you try to keep your rising anxiety or anger in check until it just boils over? Perhaps, when you can’t take it anymore you either yell, say something really harsh, give in, or become incredibly anxious, feel out-of-control, question your parenting skills and approach.

We are now in a world where we are flooded with information and misinformation. It is hard to know where to start, which approach you want to implement in your household, what one’s are backed by science and research, etc. No matter the parenting approach, mental health professionals and research support authoritative parenting styles.

“I hate you. I don’t love you anymore.” Have you heard this from your child(ren)? How do you respond after they says something that is hurtful? Do you wonder what to say or do, so they don’t do this again? It is really hard when you hear these types of things from your child. We often personalize and attribute it to our parenting. You may ask or say things like, “What am I doing wrong,” “Where did I go wrong,” and/or “I have failed them.” Others may think what is wrong with my kid.