How To Have a Better Relationship With Your Partner

Are you struggling to connect with your partner? Does it feel like you’ve lost that spark that brought you both together? Are you arguing a lot? Or can’t seem to get unstuck from the same arguments again and again?

It is much easier and safer to point to other people being the problem. It is much harder to look within and see the change that we need to make ourselves. Both of us have come from homes that did not have the best communication skills, which means healthy communication was not usually modeled, encouraged, taught, or practiced. 

  • We know what it is like to feel unable to speak up for our needs in relationships, either because we literally didn’t have the words or out of fear of rejection if we did.

  • We know what it is like to get so heated that it is hard to get unstuck from the conflict or negative communication cycle, even when you know you need to stop. 

  • We know how hard it is to have to learn how to calm yourself down before continuing to engage in a heated conversation. 

  • We know the helpless feeling when you desperately want and need to do something different in your relationships, but don’t know how. 

  • We know what it is like to feel so paralyzed and overwhelmed during conflict and be unable to actively participate.

It wasn’t our fault, nor our parents, or even their parents. It is not about pointing the finger or blaming. It has been a transgenerational process that has been passed down through the years. This helps us have self-compassion and grace for ourselves, as well as others. It also means we have had to personally learn how to communicate with our partners, and later our kids, in a healthier way, because we want the cycle to stop with us. 

As psychologists, we know about half of all marriages end in divorce. The number one reported cause of divorce is communication problems. Communication problems aren’t just within the couples, they are within all of our relationships. The latest research suggests that 27% of Americans are estranged from a member of their own family and up to 40% will experience estrangement at some point. The most common estrangement occurs between parents and their children.

All this research, is to simply say that we know personally and professionally how communication can make or break relationships. We are motivated to create change within ourselves, as to help you create change in your relationships.

How to Improve Your Relationship Workshop

If you are wanting to know how to communicate better in your relationships then this workshop is for you. Communicating better with our kids, partners, friends, co-workers, and family members makes it more likely we all get what we need in relationships.

What’s Included

  • Lecture

    45 minutes of lecture that is organized into an introduction and five modules.

  • Handouts

    Downloadable supporting material to use as reference.

  • Resources for a deeper dive

    Conveniently embedded links to readings that will further your knowledge on each the subject.

  • Unlimited access

    Lifetime access to the material in this course!

Testimonials

  • Taught me how to handle conflict!

    This course helped me understand how I respond and handle conflict in my relationship with my spouse. First, it helped me identify the things that trigger me. I don't think I have ever sat down and identified those things. Next, the therapists helped me understand how my spouse and I communicate during conflicts, the roles we take on, and why the problems may not get resolved. It was spot on! I can see now how being on either side of the spectrum of being too aggressive or too withdrawn just makes the other party feel frustrated or not heard. Finally, Dr. King and Dr. Boddy broke down the basic skills and steps to communicate assertively, with neither aggression nor passivity, by stating the problem, using "I" statements, relating how you feel, and expressing your needs. The course helped me understand that navigating through conflict in your relationship is akin to learning a new dance, a sports play, or creating a work of art. There are basic skills, timing, and tone, which when synthesized together from a place of love and caring, can create a wonderful, lasting outcome. Thank you!

  • Loved this course!

    I loved this course! I would recommend it, even if you are not in a relationship or not facing problems with your partner. I learned most about myself, and what is at my hand to start making changes. The concepts are complex but clearly and simply explained, with lots of hands on advice. Thank you Dr. King and Dr. Boddy!

  • Foundational for relationships

    Dr. King and Dr. Boddy provide the communication skills and foundations of relationships that I wish we could have all learned as a children! Their concrete, succinct course felt very validating in terms of understanding my role in my relationship. It helped my husband and I recognize/name what our roles/ patterns are and where we are strong/ what we can improve upon. The strategies around communication are simple yet profound! I feel empowered and armed with many tools to continue to grow my relationship with my husband; and with others in my life too! Thanks for this wonderful course!

Lesson Overview

  • What's your relationship pattern?

    Every relationship has a pattern, especially if you have been together for a long time. In order to break unhealthy patterns/cycles, you need to be aware of what they are. In this lesson you’ll learn about common relationship patterns and be able to identify your own.

  • How to talk so your partner will listen!

    Good communication is key to satisfying relationships. In this lesson you’ll learn four ways to have have more effective communication, as well as learn how to set boundaries.

  • How to self-soothe

    In this lesson, you’ll learn coping skills to use to self-soothe when you are getting overwhelmed with feelings. While you may be part of a couple, it is still your job to calm yourself down.

  • How to repair your relationship with your partner

    We are bound to make mistakes in relationships. In this lesson, you’ll learn the important steps in the repair process.

  • Distinguishing abuse

    This course is not for couples in an abusive dynamic. In this lesson, you’ll learn to distinguish abuse from unhealthy communication or patterns.

About the Instructors

  • Dr. Cynthia King

    CO-FOUNDER AND CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST

    Dr. King has been practicing as a therapist for a decade. She is well versed at helping people with their relationships by teaching healthy communication skills, including how to use assertive communication to express what you need and what is not working in the relationship and adjusting

  • Dr. Arianna Boddy

    CO-FOUNDER AND CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST

    Dr. A. Boddy has been helping kids, teens, and parents learn about their communication patterns so their families can be more connected and feel peaceful. She has been working as a therapist for nearly a decade and co-owns a private practice. Both personally and professionally, she understands how assertive communication can help you achieve what you need in your relationships at home and work.

Contributing Authors On Relationships

  • Boundaries

    In this article, Dr. King contributes with her knowledge on how to have healthy boundaries and how to know when someone is disrespecting your boundaries in a relationship.

  • What to do when someone is angry with you

    In this article, Dr. King shares her expert opinion on how to navigate it when someone you care about is angry with you.

  • How to deal with a bully

    In this article, Dr. Boddy outlines how to help your daughter deal with difficult people at school.

  • Over apologizing

    In this article, Dr. King shares her insight as to why people over apologize in relationships and what to do instead.

We believe relationships are the cornerstone of a happy and full life.

We believe that our relationships and connection are so important. In fact, people with healthy relationships in their lives report less stress, heal better, engage in healthier behaviors, have a greater sense of purpose, and even live longer. Therefore, any opportunity to strengthen connection is worth it. This workshop will help you to build on he foundation you already have in your relationships, identify the common communication problems unique to your specific relationship, and then help you remedy those problems. Act now. Don’t wait for problems to grow and become insurmountable.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • This online course is divided into five lessons. It is self-paced. Within each lesson is an educational/lecture style video, followed by written content. This written content is meant to be supportive of the video, summarizing key points and offering links to other articles and handouts for a deeper dive into the concepts and strategies.

  • Absolutely! If you and your partner are both motivated and open to change, by all means take it together.

  • Not in the traditional sense of the word. We do provide handouts and some of these handouts ask you to self-reflect. The more you put in the more you will get out. We encourage you to do a deep dive, share with others, and put the skills into practice every day.

  • We are not able to answer questions specific to your relationship. Remember, we are not acting as therapists in this workshop. This workshop is meant to offer strategies that tend to be applicable across all relationships so specific information is not necessary in order to benefit.

  • You will receive an email with an attachment. That attachment provides the link to the course, along with the password you need to access it. Once you buy the course, you will have access as long as the course is available on the website.

Satisfaction Guarantee

If you take the course and find that it wasn’t useful or relevant in your relationships, we are happy to give you a full refund within 30 days after purchase. No questions asked. Money back guarantee.

We genuinely believe that satisfying relationships are the cornerstone of a happy and full life. We’ve seen folks make small changes that make a BIG impact on their relationships resulting in less fighting, more peaceful interactions, and greater satisfaction. We hope you’ll join us because we look forward to sharing these new skills with you.